How did you meet?
Julie: We both worked at Lafayette National Bank in Lafayette, Indiana. Dave worked in the Mortgage Department and I worked as a teller during college.
Dave: We both worked at Lafayette National Bank. Julie worked at the bank while attending Purdue and I was a loan officer at the bank. I remember she put a note on my car as an ice breaker.
Was it love at first sight?
Julie: Pretty much. But, it took Dave 2 years to ask me out on a date.
Dave: No, we worked together for a year or so before we began to date.
When did you know that this was the “one” and you were going to get married?
Julie: I think we knew after we had dated about a year. We got engaged a few months later and married July 13, 1991 – a little over 2 years since our first date.
Dave: We’d been dating about a year and I told her I wasn’t going to get married until I was at least 30. She said that was fine but she wasn’t going to wait that long. At that point I realized how lucky I was—she was beautiful (and still is), smart and she went to all of my bike races. It didn’t take long to change my mind.
Was it always marital bliss?
Julie: Most of the time, yes. The first year was a rough transition for both of us (we’re both pretty hard-headed!). And, life seems to always present challenges – children, illness, job changes, moves, money, family-issues, surgery – to name a few. We have managed to face tough times together as a team – and always find ways to have fun, laugh and be positive! As the waves (and sometimes tsunamis) of life have come our way we have just kept jumping together.
Dave: No. The first year was tough and I learned that I am not always right. In fact, I learned I was rarely right.
What one thing do you feel has made your relationship successful?
Julie: God, lots of love, and being too hard headed to give up!
Dave: We respect and trust each other. We are Catholic and have the same spiritual beliefs.
How long have you been married?
Julie: We’ve been married 26 years. It’s gone by fast!
Dave: 26 years
Tell us one thing about the two of you that not many people know.
Julie: Dave and I were born in the same town and grew up a half an hour from each other – close by Midwest standards. Since Dave lived in Illinois and I lived in Indiana, we didn’t meet until we were adults.
Dave: One of our many stops during our honeymoon was to watch a stage finish of the Tour de France.
What do you like to do for date night?
Julie: When our kids were younger, we’d go down to the basement and watch a movie. Now that our kids are older, we are doing better about going out to some great restaurants. But, our favorite “date night” is to hang out on our deck with a bottle of wine and listen to the animals, watch the stars, and talk.
Dave: Dinner at one of the fine local restaurants. We also like to split a bottle of wine while sitting on the deck admiring nature.
Tell us what your most memorable date was and why?
Julie: My most memorable date was dinner in a Yurt when we went skiing in Park City, Utah. We traveled by sled through a light snow shower up the mountain. On our trail, a lone coyote stood on a bluff watching over us as we went past. The yurt, a round tent with a wooden floor, had no electricity or running water. Everything was brought up on snowmobiles. It was the most amazing meal and very romantic.
Dave: I had a conference in Park City, Utah and Julie was able to accompany me. We had a free night so we took a sleigh ride at night to a remote yurt and had one of the most enjoyable and eclectic dining experiences we’ve had.
Please share some words of wisdom on relationships.
Julie: Marry someone amazing who will love you despite all of the crazy, idiotic things that you do and then spend time together so that you don’t lose that spark.
Dave: Making time for each other is very important. Our goal is to have one night together each week where we are totally engaged with no distractions. I travel a lot with my job so while it’s not always possible, we find a way to spend time together.