Date Night: Ken & Lucy Grady

1.  How did you meet?

K: Blind date set up by Tracey Foscue. Her son Quinn and m son, Kameron were great friends and did things together all the time. Quinn stayed at our house & Kam stayed with Quinn a lot, so we were very close.

L: Blind date set up by my cousin, Tracey Foscue. Her son and Ken’s son were great friends growing up.

 

2.  Was it love at first sight?

K: No, we had a great Dinner Date, very relaxed, good conversation, she was very attractive, but I didn’t feel she was very interested in me at the time.

L: No..I knew he was very handsome and was a great dresser! He dressed classy and mature!  And of course that was what I was looking for at the time but didn’t know it! I had a really good time with Ken and conversation was easy. I felt that maybe he was a little too “touchy feely” for a first date and blind date; but after knowing Ken, THAT is Ken! He is genuinely loving and kind! And all he did was graciously place his arm around my shoulders and neck when we walked into the restaurant!

 

3.  When did you know that this was the “one” and you were going to get married?

K: We started dating again a little over a year later and we spent a lot of time together, traveled with friends, did things with the Kids and we got close rather quickly. My Kids really felt comfortable around Lucy, as did I. She was such huge support person I could talk to about issues that came up with my teenage kids. We could tell, her being a Social Worker, she had a big Heart. As we continued to date it became apparent that this was someone I could spend the rest of Life with. About 7 months in, I knew. From there it moved rather quickly.

L: Well, a year went by with no date or contact until his daughter, Kendall, asked to follow me on My Space. I started thinking about Ken and all I could think about was how nice he was to me, how maturely dressed and established he was and that he went to church. He was raising his kids with his ex wife which seemed to be a healthy balance and priority of his that stood out to me. Thinking…this is what I would want in a husband, a future partner for the rest of my life! So, I reached out to Kendall on My Space and asked how he was doing?  This led to Ken and I reconnecting.  We had more social media contact and later a phone call with him asking me to come over and cookout with him and his children. It was not going to be as uncomfortable or awkward as one would think when meeting a guy’s kids for the first time on another first date because Tracey’s son, Quinn, who I love and adore like a nephew was going to be there.  I took myself and salad ingredients over there and when I walked up to the front door I thought to myself, how comfortable this feels. “It felt right!” The night was perfect! We cooked together and had another great night of easy conversation. This led to a fun evening playing basketball with the kids until late night!   After that, things pretty much moved fast. At our age when you know something feels right and when you both have been there before with other relationships; you know what you want and what you do not want in a relationship. So why wait to second guess it?!  After 7 months of dating and 3 months of being engaged, we were married November 29, 2008!

4.  Was it always marital bliss?

K: No, we both had been single for a while so we were used to doing certain things a certain way and it was definitely an adjustment. We had to have open communication and be able to look at things from a different prospective.

L: No. It was definitely an adjustment for us both. I jumped in to being a wife, stepmom and living with 3 other people full time!  I had been used to being by myself and making decisions that only affected me. Now, it was time to “put on my big girl panties” and be Mrs. June Cleaver!  I couldn’t be happier to be that person now and have this family!

5.  What one thing do you feel has made your relationship successful?

K: It’s always a work in progress, but Patience & Communication are key.

L: We are still a work in progress! But in our 8 years of being married, we have learned that if you are patient, kind and understanding of each other’s feelings; then you can get farther in having a successful marriage.

 

6.  How long have you been married?

K&L:8 years

7.  Tell us one thing about the two of you that not many people know.

K: We share the housework, cooking and cleaning together and share the yard work.  I do most of the cooking.

L: We share the housework of cooking and cleaning together and share the yard work responsibilities! I will say Ken does enjoy planning the dinner menus

8.  What do you like to do for date night?

K: Go out to eat or a movie, but we love to watch movies at home also.

L: Dress up and go eat a nice meal somewhere that we don’t always go.

 

9.  Tell us what your most memorable date was and why?

K: They are all memorable…….

L: I guess you could say it was the weekend we went away with the kids to the beach. It was the night he and his children asked me to marry them. We were on the beach that evening playing around and when I turned around to find Ken he was on a knee preparing to ask me to marry him!  The most memorable and exciting date that comes to my mind.

10. Please share some words of wisdom on relationships.

K: Patience & Communication are key..!!! We all struggle but be positive and try to build one another up.

L: **Do or say something nice to each other every day. **Put your relationship first then everything else will fall into place. **Always say, “I love you” before you go to bed and when you leave the house.   **Be rational, respectful and willing to talk about things openly. **Be sure to think before you speak:  1) Is it true? 2) Is it necessary? 3) Is it kind?

Ken & Lucy Grady

1.  How did you meet?

K: Blind date set up by Tracey Foscue. Her son Quinn and m son, Kameron were great friends and did things together all the time. Quinn stayed at our house & Kam stayed with Quinn a lot, so we were very close.

L: Blind date set up by my cousin, Tracey Foscue. Her son and Ken’s son were great friends growing up.

 

2.  Was it love at first sight?

K: No, we had a great Dinner Date, very relaxed, good conversation, she was very attractive, but I didn’t feel she was very interested in me at the time.

L: No..I knew he was very handsome and was a great dresser! He dressed classy and mature!  And of course that was what I was looking for at the time but didn’t know it! I had a really good time with Ken and conversation was easy. I felt that maybe he was a little too “touchy feely” for a first date and blind date; but after knowing Ken, THAT is Ken! He is genuinely loving and kind! And all he did was graciously place his arm around my shoulders and neck when we walked into the restaurant!

 

3.  When did you know that this was the “one” and you were going to get married?

K: We started dating again a little over a year later and we spent a lot of time together, traveled with friends, did things with the Kids and we got close rather quickly. My Kids really felt comfortable around Lucy, as did I. She was such huge support person I could talk to about issues that came up with my teenage kids. We could tell, her being a Social Worker, she had a big Heart. As we continued to date it became apparent that this was someone I could spend the rest of Life with. About 7 months in, I knew. From there it moved rather quickly.

L: Well, a year went by with no date or contact until his daughter, Kendall, asked to follow me on My Space. I started thinking about Ken and all I could think about was how nice he was to me, how maturely dressed and established he was and that he went to church. He was raising his kids with his ex wife which seemed to be a healthy balance and priority of his that stood out to me. Thinking…this is what I would want in a husband, a future partner for the rest of my life! So, I reached out to Kendall on My Space and asked how he was doing?  This led to Ken and I reconnecting.  We had more social media contact and later a phone call with him asking me to come over and cookout with him and his children. It was not going to be as uncomfortable or awkward as one would think when meeting a guy’s kids for the first time on another first date because Tracey’s son, Quinn, who I love and adore like a nephew was going to be there.  I took myself and salad ingredients over there and when I walked up to the front door I thought to myself, how comfortable this feels. “It felt right!” The night was perfect! We cooked together and had another great night of easy conversation. This led to a fun evening playing basketball with the kids until late night!   After that, things pretty much moved fast. At our age when you know something feels right and when you both have been there before with other relationships; you know what you want and what you do not want in a relationship. So why wait to second guess it?!  After 7 months of dating and 3 months of being engaged, we were married November 29, 2008!

 

4.  Was it always marital bliss?

K: No, we both had been single for a while so we were used to doing certain things a certain way and it was definitely an adjustment. We had to have open communication and be able to look at things from a different prospective.

L: No. It was definitely an adjustment for us both. I jumped in to being a wife, stepmom and living with 3 other people full time!  I had been used to being by myself and making decisions that only affected me. Now, it was time to “put on my big girl panties” and be Mrs. June Cleaver!  I couldn’t be happier to be that person now and have this family!

 

5.  What one thing do you feel has made your relationship successful?

K: It’s always a work in progress, but Patience & Communication are key.

L: We are still a work in progress! But in our 8 years of being married, we have learned that if you are patient, kind and understanding of each other’s feelings; then you can get farther in having a successful marriage.

 

6.  How long have you been married?

K&L:8 years

 

7.  Tell us one thing about the two of you that not many people know.

K: We share the housework, cooking and cleaning together and share the yard work.  I do most of the cooking.

L: We share the housework of cooking and cleaning together and share the yard work responsibilities! I will say Ken does enjoy planning the dinner menus

 

8.  What do you like to do for date night?

K: Go out to eat or a movie, but we love to watch movies at home also.

L: Dress up and go eat a nice meal somewhere that we don’t always go.

 

9.  Tell us what your most memorable date was and why?

K: They are all memorable…….

L: I guess you could say it was the weekend we went away with the kids to the beach. It was the night he and his children asked me to marry them. We were on the beach that evening playing around and when I turned around to find Ken he was on a knee preparing to ask me to marry him!  The most memorable and exciting date that comes to my mind.

 

10. Please share some words of wisdom on relationships.

K: Patience & Communication are key..!!! We all struggle but be positive and try to build one another up.

L: **Do or say something nice to each other every day. **Put your relationship first then everything else will fall into place. **Always say, “I love you” before you go to bed and when you leave the house.   **Be rational, respectful and willing to talk about things openly. **Be sure to think before you speak:  1) Is it true? 2) Is it necessary? 3) Is it kind?

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